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Lesson Forty - One

THE CHRISTIAN HOME

MEMORY VERSE: In all things showing thy self a pattern of good works. Titus 2:7a.
BIBLE PASSAGE: Titus 2:1-14
INTRODUCATION: A Christian home is an institution where parents are bound together by Christian love, where children are happy and scripturally instructed, where the Lord Jesus is not only the supposed Head of the home, but the actual Head, and where parents and children gather daily for family worship. A Christian home is one that radiates Christ, welcome strangers and dispenses hospitality. A Christian home consists of God-fearing children. The Christian home is the backbone of the nation, the salt of civilization and the glory of the Christian Church. May God give us Christian homes?

LESSON OUTLINES
1.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF THE FATHER?
2.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF THE MOTHER?
3.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF BOTH PARENTS?
4.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF THE CHILDREN?

1.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF THE FATHER
God has placed the husband as the head of the home (Eph. 5:23). For example, Abraham commanded his household faithfully (Gen. 18:19). That is not to say that the wife is a slave beneath the husband’s feet. She is his helpmate taken from his side, to remain at his side, an equal partner. It is the duty of the husband to love his wife (Eph. 5:25) and this is the love of 1 Cor. 13, loving in health, in sickness, in poverty and in prosperity. The husband is required to be faithful to his wife. God demands honesty, frankness and faithfulness between the partners in a marriage. It is the husband’s duty to comfort his wife in times of sorrow (1 Sam. 1:8). He ought to consult with his wife on business matters, for they are a team. By Virtue of marriage, they have become one – a single unit (Gen. 13:47, 14-16). The Christian husband will always put Christ first in his life (Lk. 14:26). He must love his wife, but he must love Christ more. He is the priest of the family and is responsible to establish a family altar for daily family worship.

2.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF MOTHER?
Almost all great men have been made great by one or two loving women, a godly mother or a devoted wife. They are tremendous assets. The wife’s first duty is to love and serve Jesus Christ (Lk. 14:26). The Wife’s second duty is to obey her husband (Eph. 5:22). Sarah was a good example to follow (1 Pet. 3:6). Wives are not only to respect their husbands, but they are to love them, too (Tit. 2:4). Husbands need a great deal of affection, too. The woman is not to be adorned with omaments (1 Tim. 2:9-10). Instead they are to be adorned with good works, including (a) Modesty and sobriety and (b) a meek and quiet spirit (1 Pet. 3:4-5). A Christian wife must be trustworthy, hardworking and an early riser (Prov. 31:11, 13, 15). The responsibility of the wife is great but Jesus will give grace to those who ask Him.

3.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF BOTH PARENTS?
A home cannot be fully happy without children. Therefore the parents who deliberately hinder the birth of a family are disobeying God and waiting for judgement (Gen. 1:28). Parents are to realize that their children really belong to God (Ps. 127:3-5). Therefore parents who love their children shall find favour with God (Tit. 2:4). Parents are to bring their children to the Lord at an early age (Matt. 19:13-14), to train and discipline them for the Lord (Prov. 22:6). One way of making their task easier is to bring the children to Sunday school and Church. Teach them Bible stories at home and give them a part in family prayers. Teach them to obey God and the laws of the country, (Deut. 32:46). Parents are to provide for their children (1 Tim. 5:8) and should be careful not to provoke their children to wrath (Eph. 6:4). Above all, let godly parents pray for their children. Pray that they will be saved, that they will overcome sin, etc.

4.  WHAT IS THE DUTY OF THE CHILDREN?
Children are to honour their parents (Exo. 20:12), obey them (Lk. 2:51) and pray for them. They must also return their parents love, for love is a two-way traffic. Children must constantly remember that the children of today shall be the parents of tomorrow. Gal. 6:7 is for ever true.

5   CONCLUSION
The secret of a successful Christian home is in the family altar where Christ is crowned as Head of the home. Love is the second secret. Fathers and mothers should also remember we are all children with a loving Father above who constantly demonstrates His love (Heb. 12:6).

QUESTIONS
1.  What member of the family is responsible for the family altar?
2.  Describe what makes a happy Christian home.
3.  Give two reasons why children must honour their parents?

FURTHER READINGS: 1 Tim. 2:11-15, Gen. 3:16, Prov. 31:10, 12, 28, Heb. 12:7-8, Tit. 2:9-10.