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Lesson Forty


CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

MEMORY VERSE: Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour of the Lord. Prov. 18:22.

BIBLE PASSAGE: 1 Corinthians 7:1-15.
INTRODUCATION: Marriage is the oldest human institution. It is older than the Church or any human government. Marriage has been ordained of the Lord for the procreation of the race and the establishment of homes for children where happiness and joy can reign (Prov.18:22). Although we live in a day of low moral standards, when marriage vows are easily broken and divorce is considered common, God’s law and standard do not change. Any Christian who breaks his marriage vows is therefore playing with fire!

LESSON OUTLINES
1.   WHY SHOULD WE MARRY?
2.   WHO SHOULD A CHRISTIAN MARRY?
3.   WHEN SHOULD A CHRISTIAN MARRY?
4.   WHAT IS COURTSHIP?
5.   WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARRIAGE?
6.   CONCLUSION?

1.   WHY SHOULD WE MARRY
There are several reasons why we should marry if we feel led by God to do so. Some of these reasons are:
(a) To obey the command of God (Gen. 1:28)
(b) For fellowship (Gen. 2:18).
(c) For partnership (Ecc. 4:9-11). It takes two to make “one flesh” (Gen. 2:24).
(d) To satisfy creation desire those are good, holy and legitimate but can only be satisfied in marriage.
(e) For the propagation of the human race (Gen. 9:1).

2.   WHO SHOULD A CHRISTIAN MARRY
Christians may only marry Christians (11 Cor. 6:14-17). In God’s sight it is totally unacceptable for a godly person and an ungodly one to be united in holy matrimony to be one flesh. How can they be one when one serves God, in holiness and righteousness, while the other serves sin and Satan? In the passage just quoted we see six clear reasons why a believer should not marry an unbeliever:
(a) God’s command, be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
(b) Righteousness has no fellowship with unrighteousness.
(c) Light has no communion with darkness.
(d) Christ has no concord with Belial.
(e) Believers have no part with infidels.
(f) God’s temple has no agreement with idols.
It is easy then to see that the question that naturally comes to mind in how can these two sets of people who are so different form a true partnership and have joyful fellowship?

3.   WHEN SHOULD A CHRISTIAN MARRY
(a)  Wait till you are old enough to marry. Marriage is for adults, not for children, for it carries heavy      responsibilities requiring maturity and experience.
(b) Let God guide you into marriage after much prayer and seeking His will.
(c) Do not rush into marriage even after you know whom God wants you to marry. It is always advisable to      know your partner sufficiently well to know his or her likes and dislikes.
(d) Never marry a man or woman with the hope of reforming him or her. Instead of reforming him or her he or      she may drag you to tell with him or her. Therefore wait till any moral problems he or she may have are      settled.
(e) Wait for health. Marriage requires strong bodies. If your partner is unwell, jointly pray healing from above.
(f) Wait for the approval of the girl’s parents. This is very important. A Christian should not “Steal” a wife!
(g) Wait for a measure of financial stability. Not wealth as such but at least some security.

4.   WHAT IS COURTSHIP
To the couple, courtship is a time of getting better acquainted and ascertaining whether or not they are prepared for marriage. It is very important to note that they must not take liberties one with another at this time, for they are not yet married. Avoid petting and caressing lest passion override reason and you ruin everything. Keep yourself pure or you may discover how easily love can turn to hate! (11 Sam. 13:15).

5.   WHAT MAKES A HAPPY MARRIAGE?
A successful marriage is based on genuine heart agreement or the couple. They must be willing to establish a Christian home, with the husband as head of the home the wife a pleasant helpmate, and with the family altar. The marriage must be based on lifetime anticipation, “Till death do us part”. Marriage is not an experiment, for a short time. It is permanent (Matt. 19:6-9). Genuine love is essential to a happy marriage (Eph. 5:25, Tit. 2:4).

6. CONCLUSION
The greatest marriage ever is the one between Christ and His Bride, the church. This marriage is the only one to unite heaven and earth! Are you ready for this most wonderful marriage? Are you saved?

QUESTIONS
1.   What is the oldest human institution?
2.   Give some reasons why a Christian should not marry an unbeliever.
3.   What is adultery and how does God view it?

FURTHER READINGS: 1 Cor. 7:32, 1 Cor. 13, Ps. 127:3-5, Exo. 20:14-17, Lev.20:10.

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